A memorial service held every day is more important than visiting your family’s grave once a year.


Bones put in an urn after cremation are only a part of the whole due to the size of the urn when the cremation is done in city. The rest of it are thrown away together with other’s bones. Remains don’t include the soul of the deceased and are nothing more than wreck like the lyric of the song “Don’t Stand At My Grave And Weep”.

  • urn 骨壷
  • cremation 火葬
  • due to A   Aのために
  • the rest 残り
  • throw A away   Aを捨てる
  • remain 遺骨
  • include 含む
  • the deceased    故人
  • nothing more than  A A以上のものではない
  • wreck 残骸

Are graves unnecessary? No. They’re important all the same. They are important as monuments not to forget ancestors. Human beings are forgetful of holding memorial services for ancestors when they’re busy with their work or everyday lives. But if people have their graves, when the equinoctial week or Obon festival comes around, they will visit them with their family.

  • grave 墓
  • all the same    やはり
  • ancestor 先祖
  • forgetful 忘れやすい
  • equinoctial week お彼岸

Without graves, there is no chance to hold memorial services for ancestors with family members. It is a great consolation to ancestral spirits for their descendants to think about them even a few times in a year.

  • consolation 慰め
  • descendant 子孫

If all of your ancestral spirits were in rest in peace, it would be enough for you to visit the grave a few times a year and after that, work hard in the World of Reality forgetting about them. But actually there are wandering ancestral spirits in any family line. Wandering ancestral spirits try to depend on their descendants for help. Then there will happen a lot of troubles in your life because they try to draw your attention to their existence.

  • wander 迷う
  • depend 頼る
  • draw attention 注意を引く
  • existence 存在

It is really agony for spirits to stay in this word with attachment to it because the situation of the moment of their death is fixed. If they want to go back to the spirit world on their own, it’s not easy because they have missed the chance to leave. They need help from their descendants in the form of memorial services with gratitude.

  • agony 苦悶
  • attachment 執着
  • fix 固定する
  • on one’s own 自分で
  • in the form of A   Aの形で
  • gratitude 感謝の気持ち

It’s more important for you to hold a memorial service for your ancestral spirits everyday with gratitude with the use of three incense sticks than to visit the grave a few times in a year. It makes your ancestors happy for you to think about them even a few times a year, much more to think about them everyday at home.

  • ancestral    先祖の
  • incense stick    線香
  • much more A     ましてやAはなおさらだ

If you hold a memorial service for your ancestors everyday, you can make your wandering ancestral spirits rest in peace one by one. And they, in turn, become your guardian spirits and will protect you. What you did for your ancestors will return to you without fail.

  • in turn 今度は
  • guardian spirit 守護霊
  • protect 守る
  • without fail    必ず

There may be a case you have separated graves for some reason. In many cases, it is due to the will of the deceased, who doesn’t want to stay together with his wife or her husband after death, for example. This is also due to some karma. Just leave it as it is. Above all, it’s important for you to hold a memorial service everyday for your ancestors whose surname is the same as yours.

  • will 遺言
  • leave A as A is Aをそのままにしておく
  • above all 何よりも
  • surname    苗字

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