Only After You’ve Lost People who Supported You Can You Realize How Important They were

The Japanese phrase “okagesama” is written “御蔭様” or  “御陰様” in Chinese characters. According to a dictionary, the phrase is the one said to another with gratitude who gives you support or a favor.  “蔭” and “陰” both mean “shadow,” so the phrase is used not only for people you’re aware of but also for people you’re not. I feel that “okagesama” is an appreciative word you say for your being kept alive.

  • Chinese character 漢字
  • graitude 感謝の気持ち
  • favor 親切
  • aware  気がついて
  • appreciative 感謝の

It is difficult to notice those you’re not aware of but you should be grateful to. People are apt to fail to notice them because they’re invisible, your eyes are blinded, you don’t want to admit it though you’re aware of them, you don’t feel like being grateful to them and so on.

  • grateful 感謝して
  • be apt to~ 〜しがちで
  • fail to~ 〜しない
  • admit 認める

Anybody should owe a lot to others but is apt to forget them. Without them, you couldn’t live. The fact that you’re living now, no matter what difficulties you’re going through or how miserable you are, means someone has been supporting you from behind the scene. Who is it? Since people are sometimes stupid, it is only after they’ve lost those supporting you that they realize how important the benefactors were. If the benefactor is a person, only after he/she passes away can you realize how much you’ve owed to him/her deeply. You would realize honestly the fact that the person concerned himself/herself with a certain period of your lifetime and supported you.

  • owe 借りがある
  • miserable 惨めな
  • benefactor 恩人
  • pass away 亡くなる
  • honestly 素直に
  • concern 関係させる
  • period 期間

The deceased who had something to do with you have also existed in the small universe in your heart and still have been supporting you. Until their souls leave for another journey, the relationship between you and them continues. Therefore, it is important that you hold memorial services for them without forgetting them.

  • the deceased 故人
  • relationship 関係

If you can realize who you should be grateful to while they’re alive, you won’t regret later in life. Your attitude toward them would change, too. It is precious and wonderful that you can mend your ways while you’re alive. To realize them, take a look around you from the point of view of being kept alive.

  • regret 後悔する
  • attitude 態度
  • mend 修正する

As you work or get along with your family and people around you, always grateful for being kept alive, you will be able to accept them as they are, not so concerned about trifle things. Okagesama is like an individual because “sama” is added to a person’s name. Okagesama may be a being who has offered and supported this world full of joy, anger, grief and pleasure.

  • get along 付き合う
  • concerned 気にして
  • trifle 些細な
  • offer 提供する

Are you in trouble? Don’t worry. It’s like you’ve just got into a roller coaster whose ticket is expensive. It’ll be over soon. If you should get out of it now in the middle of moving, your soul will die. If you don’t enjoy the ride, going up and down, you’ll waste the ticket. The bigger the thrill, the more you’ll want to ride it again when it’s over. Who is it that controls the roller coaster? – it’s God inside you.

  • roller coaster ジェットコースター
  • expensive 高価な
  • in the middle of A Aの最中に

生かして頂いて ありがとう御座位ます

I Ka Shi Te I Ta Da I Te  A Ri Ga To U Go Za I Ma SU

Thank you so much for keeping me/us alive.

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