I used to say that when you hold a memorial service for your ancestral spirits,
(1) Put up the first incense stick at the right part of an incense holder and imagine your whole male ancestral spirits related to your surname.
(2) Put up the second one at the left part of the incense holder and imagine your whole female ancestral spirits of your familine related to your surname.
(3) Put up the last one at the front part of the incense holder so that the three incense sticks form a triangle, and imagine the whole spirits related to you, such as spirits of dead babies, relatives, acquaintances, living persons, pet animals and so on.
When I started this blog site, I recommended the way like the above. However, seeing the reactions of readers, I felt that some people couldn’t concentrate well on the service because they were taking too much care of their family name. Adopted children or their parents having got divorced, they were so much worried about which name to imagine that they made their ancestral spirits feel uneasy.
So, if you don’t know which family name you should imagine in holding a memorial service for your ancestors, I recommend that you imagine the whole of your male and female ancestral spirits regardless of your surname.
Ancestral spirits who need your help still have their own individuality and gender. Going back to your family line for no more than three generations, you’ll find that the number of your ancestors are huge. So if you imagine only ancestral spirits of your family name, you’ll fail to comfort a lot of them.
Anyway, an important thing is for you to comfort the whole of your ancestral spirits without omission. Try to offer gratitude to all of your ancestral spirits in your own way, no matter how.
People are apt to make much of the deceased they know. But the truth is such spirits who have just died are taken care of by spirits who passed away before them. Therefore, as you succeed in comforting the whole of your ancestral spirits, it becomes easy for the spirits having left this world before to take care of the spirits who have just gone into the other world. Again, when you hold a memorial service for ancestors, try to comfort all of your ancestral spirits without sticking too much to particular dead people or your family name.
As you hold a memorial service every day thinking about your whole ancestral spirits, you will cease to stick to your family name or line. Then memorial services for your ancestral spirits will change into the ones for all human beings, the couple of the original man and woman and gods. Thorough memorial services for ancestral spirits will make you in the state of Kannagara（カンナガラ） , or being with God. This is the safest way to make you recognize that you have already been with God.
The fact that you live in this present time means that you stand on the edge of the biological chain made by all living things who lived in the past for millions of years, including your ancestors. The deed of offering gratitude to all living things in the past holds them together and passes on their lives to the future.
No matter what situations you’re facing, you have to accept and respect yourself, so that your future will be bright for sure.
I Ka Shi Te I Ta Da I Te A Ri Ga To U Go Za I Ma Su
I AM GRATEFUL FOR BEING KEPT ALIVE